Saturday, 29 June 2013


Assertiveness, an unusual topic, when I make my mind to write on this topic, it is too difficult for me to think about it. But after a deep research, it is easy for me to represent my thoughts. So first I start from meaning and definition of assertiveness.
Assertiveness is the ability to represent your thoughts and feelings in a respectful manner. It is basically a communication style and it is in between the passive and aggression. It is a mode of communication and it defines as “an affirmation of a statement without a need of proof”.
There are three primary style of communication: Passive, Assertive, and Aggressive.
Assertiveness is different from passivity and aggression because passive person feels helpless and takes everyone’s problem and is self-denying while aggressive person is that who wins by using his power and just want to rule over others and they hurt others easily.
Assertive person knows that his feelings, rights and thoughts are as important as others. They have the ability to control themselves. In a sense we may say that if we encourage others and be positive and honest in their views and thoughts. Assertive person has many qualities few of them are:
  • They have the capability of accepting their responsibilities.
  • They don’t afraid of taking risk.
  • They are clear in their thoughts and speech.
  • They don’t give anyone a power to rule over them. They neither control nor allow others to control them.
So, assertiveness means standing up for yourself in a non aggressive way, the way of communicating your thoughts as it is good to yourself and as well as for others.
Unfortunately, some anxious person mention assertive person as selfish, arrogant because they are clear in their discussion, if they don’t want to do something, they will reject to do so. Assertiveness builds self confidence and helps in improving our relationships. We are not born as assertive, so we need to learn it.
I personally think, if you want to be assertive, be special with yourself. Don’t be quiet if you have something to say, share your views and thoughts because it is your right and you are free in your opinion. Be positive in your thoughts and feelings.
Friends remember one thing that for yourself no one is more important than ‘you’, so never regret yourself, if you don’t give respect to your feelings and desires than how can you expect it from others???

Now, after writing this article, I also want to become an assertive person to get succeed in my life.