Saturday, 29 June 2013

Assertiveness

Assertiveness, an unusual topic, when I make my mind to write on this topic, it is too difficult for me to think about it. But after a deep research, it is easy for me to represent my thoughts. So first I start from meaning and definition of assertiveness.
Assertiveness is the ability to represent your thoughts and feelings in a respectful manner. It is basically a communication style and it is in between the passive and aggression. It is a mode of communication and it defines as “an affirmation of a statement without a need of proof”.
There are three primary style of communication: Passive, Assertive, and Aggressive.
Assertiveness is different from passivity and aggression because passive person feels helpless and takes everyone’s problem and is self-denying while aggressive person is that who wins by using his power and just want to rule over others and they hurt others easily.
Assertive person knows that his feelings, rights and thoughts are as important as others. They have the ability to control themselves. In a sense we may say that if we encourage others and be positive and honest in their views and thoughts. Assertive person has many qualities few of them are:
  • They have the capability of accepting their responsibilities.
  • They don’t afraid of taking risk.
  • They are clear in their thoughts and speech.
  • They don’t give anyone a power to rule over them. They neither control nor allow others to control them.
So, assertiveness means standing up for yourself in a non aggressive way, the way of communicating your thoughts as it is good to yourself and as well as for others.
Unfortunately, some anxious person mention assertive person as selfish, arrogant because they are clear in their discussion, if they don’t want to do something, they will reject to do so. Assertiveness builds self confidence and helps in improving our relationships. We are not born as assertive, so we need to learn it.
I personally think, if you want to be assertive, be special with yourself. Don’t be quiet if you have something to say, share your views and thoughts because it is your right and you are free in your opinion. Be positive in your thoughts and feelings.
Friends remember one thing that for yourself no one is more important than ‘you’, so never regret yourself, if you don’t give respect to your feelings and desires than how can you expect it from others???

Now, after writing this article, I also want to become an assertive person to get succeed in my life.

Thursday, 27 June 2013

Fear of Unknown

Fear is basically an emotion. Human beings have a fear of everything. From childhood to adulthood people have a fear of past, present and future. They scared that what happened in their past not happened in the future or what is the impact of past on future. This is the fear of unknown because we don’t know about the future and whether it is related to our past or not. We don’t even know about tomorrow so why we are scared about future?
It is a human psychology that he is afraid of what is coming next. A great psychologist concludes that 90% of fears are due to things which are not present in his life but may be in his future. Human is always scared of changes in life. This is the fear of ignorance, fear of future, fear of changes and ultimately a fear of unknown.
Personally I think there is a fear of thought and feelings. We have some bad feelings and we think what the affect of these thoughts is on our future; however this is just our thinking and is not related to our real life or future. So we may say that we are scared from our future because of our past. We don’t have a confidence to face our future problems. God better knows about future so why we are scared of our future. God gives problems and also give strength to face them, so there is no need to fear about unknown and don’t give importance to our negative thoughts that they create an unknown fear for us.
Unfortunately, I am also from one of that person who actually has a fear of unknown but one of mine friend asked me why you are afraid of your thoughts, face this world confidently and there is no need to worry about your future and future problems. So from that day I will never have a fear of unknown.
I want to share my views with you people that we will not get anything if we scared from future. In conclusion, I must say, friends be practical and enjoy your today’s life and don’t let your past or future fear to destroy your present. It is now up to you that how you can get rid of your future fear????

Now, I have a fear that weather my 1st article get higher rate or not, hahahahaha; just kidding.